Nell at Night August 2018
Wabi Sabi & other tales of confidence.
August is not just the eighth month of the year; it also describes something esteemed, elegant or regal. It was named after Augustus Caesar, the founder of the Roman Empire and its first Emperor. In honor of what the month of August represents, let’s look at what true elegance and honor represents for the self.
Often people think of elegance as flawless and perfect, when in reality, what makes us so beautiful inside and out is the added lines, experiences and sometimes even misfortunes that tell who we are and what is special about us. When you do this, we cultivate confidence. Therefore, confidence is a key representation of being completely comfortable with and actually liking these so called imperfections. Once they are embraced, something happens and suddenly these characteristics take form as attractive and quality traits.
"Elegance is usually confused with superficiality, fashion, lack of depth. This is a serious mistake: human beings need to have elegance in their actions and in their posture because this word is synonymous with good taste, amiability, equilibrium and harmony". -Paulo Coelho
Some of the most celebrated moments can come from when you are able to release and celebrate all of you and not just the “good” parts. If we do not like the person that we have become, or we loathe qualities that we have, then we are not practicing regal elegance.
Part of my personal journey in this was discerning the difference between always trying to improve myself because I never felt good enough to being perfectly happy with who I am while growing and learning. There is a trap in this wellness world of self-improvement which conveys the idea of always needing to be better and improve which is fine AS LONG AS you like yourself now.
It is not about perfection; perfection is stiff and plastic, without flaws and not confidant at all. See my video here on the topic. Perfect and plastic can be easily replicated in a factory or machine, what makes you so beautiful are the added extras that make you distinct. Knowing that there is beauty in the “flaws”, that the edges and difficulties that are a part of you are actually the things that MAKE you beautiful is you BEING MAGNIFICENT.
If we were to look at ourselves with this honor and reverence as a perfectly imperfect piece of art that has many dimensions and sides, our life would then be much more powerful and fully aligned; we wouldn’t fight for the past or long for the future. Much of the resistance we have in our life comes from either wanting to be something that we have not yet evolved into or waning over days lost from mistakes made. When we can see the beauty in the difficulty and understand that hard times, along with great times, created from this original self-masterpiece, life will be rich and exquisite like that of a regal noble person in August.
Regal crowns come in all shapes and sizes. :)
And as always, you beautiful, regal thing you, send me a note and tell me what you think, I’d love to hear from you, firstname.lastname@example.org.
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